Healthy Goals

Stop Telling these Stories to Yourself.

We often tell ourselves lies in to make us feel better about life; however white lies only hamper your progress.

Here are some common white lies people tell themselves:

Ø I am what I am

This is not true; your behavior is more than what you are and is not yourself in moments of crisis. YOU contain powerful, dynamic, and complex parts. Your personality has different parts, some of which are painful and destructive at times, like anger and resentment; others are good and generous like gratitude, compassion, and love. Sometimes your body reacts with anger, sometimes with love. When you are unaware of these elements of your personality they can control you. When you are self-aware you can choose not to be the victim of emotions that are destructive and painful, instead you can choose emotions that are healthy and constructive. When you are angry, choose to deal with the situation with patience. This is hard to do but how easy it is to live in isolation caused by destructive anger?

Ø I have no time.

This is a poor excuse, a white lie you tell yourself to get rid of your responsibilities. You always have time for your health and wellness. You have time to get your body in shape and eat healthy. You have to want it enough to make yourself a priority. Six months from now you will be much better, or sad you did not start already. Make it your goal and hit the gym, work out at home, or bicycle to work. You have time!

Ø It’s not my fault, I’m a victim.

You are not a victim. No one but you is responsible for how you feel and react. You are responsible for your own actions. It’s easy to blame others for your feelings and overlook your responsibilities in relationships and at work. Learn to accept your faults, it will enhance your credibility and help build stronger relationships. It’s up to you whether you want to be the victim of circumstances or the master of them.

Ø My entire family is overweight, it’s in our genes.

This excuse often limits your success. The fact that you have a slow metabolism is an excuse. It’s true that genetics play an important role in how your body functions since before you were born, but epigenetics has taught us that genes can be switched off and on. You can choose a healthy lifestyle that can turn off your genes that are acting as barriers to your health and success and turn on the genes that help you lead a healthier life. The key is good nutrition and exercise for almost everyone. There are many people who thought they were destined to be overweight from genetics, but they set goals and lost weight by making simple adjustments to their lifestyle.

It is well said by Jordan Belfort, “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”